Body Language and Emotions
Our true feelings come out in our body language. Others know if we are feeling resentful, angry, ashamed, happy, or scared through our facial expressions and non-verbal cues. Our emotions are produced by our self-talk in response to an event or circumstance. We talk ourselves into being angry. We talk ourselves into being scared of a person or situation. We can criticize ourselves through our self-talk and make ourselves feel embarrassed or stupid. Then our body language and other non-verbal communication are produced in response to these emotions.
Others read our emotions through our body language on an unconscious level even if verbally we are saying something else. For example, if we say yes to helping a friend move on the weekend when we really don’t want to, it will come out in our body language. It will be evident in our sighs, our lateness, our facial expressions and our whining, when we are helping them while at the same time resenting being there. We may blame our friend for us being in a situation that we don’t want to be in, but it was us who put ourselves there. I came to realize that most times that I was in a situation that I didn’t want to be in, I was the one who put me there. Getting mad or taking it out on the other person won’t change the situation. I created it and I am the only person who can change it.
Others read our emotions through our body language on an unconscious level even if verbally we are saying something else. For example, if we say yes to helping a friend move on the weekend when we really don’t want to, it will come out in our body language. It will be evident in our sighs, our lateness, our facial expressions and our whining, when we are helping them while at the same time resenting being there. We may blame our friend for us being in a situation that we don’t want to be in, but it was us who put ourselves there. I came to realize that most times that I was in a situation that I didn’t want to be in, I was the one who put me there. Getting mad or taking it out on the other person won’t change the situation. I created it and I am the only person who can change it.
Posted by Barb Small at 4/13/2010 1:43 AM 
Categories: Effective Communication, body language, Non-verbal communication, Communication Skills
Tags: body language clear communication communication skills Effective Communication non-verbal communication
Categories: Effective Communication, body language, Non-verbal communication, Communication Skills
Tags: body language clear communication communication skills Effective Communication non-verbal communication
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