Self-Esteem and Assertiveness
Self-esteem and assertiveness are directly related. Of the four styles of communication, the three non-assertive styles of communication (passive, aggressive and passive-aggressive) all had low self-esteem.
If you don’t feel good about yourself and believe in yourself, you are more likely to look externally for answers and motivation. If you don’t trust yourself, you are less likely to be assertive and express your feelings, needs and wants. You are more likely to try to manipulate and control the situation or others so that the outcome is predictable and something you can cope with. You are less likely to take risks where you don’t know the outcome, because you won’t trust that you can handle it.
Therefore, improving your self-esteem will help you to be more assertive. Similarly, the positive outcomes from taking the risk to act assertively will help to boost your belief in yourself and boost your self-esteem.
If you don’t feel good about yourself and believe in yourself, you are more likely to look externally for answers and motivation. If you don’t trust yourself, you are less likely to be assertive and express your feelings, needs and wants. You are more likely to try to manipulate and control the situation or others so that the outcome is predictable and something you can cope with. You are less likely to take risks where you don’t know the outcome, because you won’t trust that you can handle it.
Therefore, improving your self-esteem will help you to be more assertive. Similarly, the positive outcomes from taking the risk to act assertively will help to boost your belief in yourself and boost your self-esteem.
Posted by Barb Small at 2/15/2010 5:34 AM 
Categories: Assertiveness,Self-esteem
Tags: assertiveness skills assertive communication Self-esteem
Categories: Assertiveness,Self-esteem
Tags: assertiveness skills assertive communication Self-esteem
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