In WHAT ABOUT ME, WHAT DO I WANT: BECOMING ASSERTIVE she focuses as how to get it what you want in life. Starting off with communication styles, she moves on to discuss how we learned to communicate poorly, how to use cognitive restructuring to turn around your thinking, and gives hands-on suggestions about becoming more assertive. The book is filled with self-assessment exercises, practical advice, and humor. In fact, it’s a mini-workbook written in clear, cogent language that teaches you exactly what you need to know about standing up for yourself.

In BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, CHANGING YOUR NEGATIVE SELF-TALK Small tackles the bane of our existence, the crummy, inaccurate things we tell ourselves that hold us back. She points out how these thoughts continually distort our perceptions and make us think that belief is truth and shows how negative self-talk affects self-esteem, addiction, and stress management. Not only does Small explain the different types of harmful self-talk, but she then provides a step-by-step approach for changing it. She really makes it easy to do!

Another great title, IF I COULD JUST GET OUT OF MY OWN HEAD: A NO-NONSENSE GUIDE TO COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY, explains where we go wrong in communicating and how we can improve, offering specific examples and assessment and learning exercises. She covers reacting versus responding, active listening, effective speaking, non-verbal communication, and reframing beliefs all in easy to understand language. Moreover, she includes a section on roadblocks and a trouble-shooting guide that covers pretty much all the problems you’ll run into as you attempt to improve your communication skills.

These three books teach must-have life skills to disregulated eaters in a palatable way, skills which are essential for recovery from eating problems and for leading a satisfying, authentic, successful life. The books are short and to the point, so I highly suggest you read all three. Find out more at http://www.barbsmallcoaching.com/.   

Best,

Karen

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