Twelve Signs That You Are Not Listening
1. You are rehearsing what you want to say.
2. You are thinking that I don’t have time to listen to her.
3. You are planning what you are going to do this weekend.
4. You are feeling defensive and want to fight back.
5. You are thinking how much your boss sounds like your father.
6. You are anxious to find out how the show you have been watching is going to end.
7. You are worried that you will miss your bus.
8. You are gazing out the window at the beautiful, sunny day and wish you were outside.
9. You remember having this same conversation with your wife many times before.
10. You interrupt him and start telling him what to do.
11. You are thinking, “How can he be saying that, he doesn’t know what he is talking about.”
12. You keep telling yourself that your sister doesn’t really mean what she is saying.
If you are doing any of the above when someone else is talking to you - then you are not completely present and listening fully to the other person. Chances are that you are missing part or all of what the other person is saying to you and this miscommunication can result in frustration, conflict, missed appointments or hurt feelings. Simply you cannot be listening to yourself and listening to someone else at the same time. Do you recognize yourself in the above scenarios? Do you think that you need to quiet the chatter in your head and improve your listening skills? If so, my newly released e-book, If I Could Just Get Out of My Own Head: A No-Nonsense Guide to Communicating Effectively, is now available.
Be the first to read this new book full of practical and no-nonsense tips for improving all aspects of your communication!
2. You are thinking that I don’t have time to listen to her.
3. You are planning what you are going to do this weekend.
4. You are feeling defensive and want to fight back.
5. You are thinking how much your boss sounds like your father.
6. You are anxious to find out how the show you have been watching is going to end.
7. You are worried that you will miss your bus.
8. You are gazing out the window at the beautiful, sunny day and wish you were outside.
9. You remember having this same conversation with your wife many times before.
10. You interrupt him and start telling him what to do.
11. You are thinking, “How can he be saying that, he doesn’t know what he is talking about.”
12. You keep telling yourself that your sister doesn’t really mean what she is saying.
If you are doing any of the above when someone else is talking to you - then you are not completely present and listening fully to the other person. Chances are that you are missing part or all of what the other person is saying to you and this miscommunication can result in frustration, conflict, missed appointments or hurt feelings. Simply you cannot be listening to yourself and listening to someone else at the same time. Do you recognize yourself in the above scenarios? Do you think that you need to quiet the chatter in your head and improve your listening skills? If so, my newly released e-book, If I Could Just Get Out of My Own Head: A No-Nonsense Guide to Communicating Effectively, is now available.
Be the first to read this new book full of practical and no-nonsense tips for improving all aspects of your communication!
Posted by Barb Small at 6/12/2009 10:00 AM 
Categories: Assertive Communication, Self-talk, Communication Skills
Tags: clear communication communication skills self-talk assertive communication
Categories: Assertive Communication, Self-talk, Communication Skills
Tags: clear communication communication skills self-talk assertive communication
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