So with the release of the new movie - "He's just not that into you" - I want to remind women to also ask themselves another question - "How into him are you?" I recall many times having female clients tell me how anxious they were about a first date with a new man and worrying, "What if he doesn't like me?" I would ask them, "What if you don't like him?" They would often look at me with a surprised look as if they had never even thought about that side of things. Rather than simply putting the power of choice in the man's hands - why not take some of it back and make it a mutual decision. Do we like each other? Do we want to spend more time with each other?

My book, "What About Me, What Do I Want? Becoming Assertive", can help you develop the courage to ask yourself what you really want in a relationship and start communicating this to your date so that you can have a mutual and equal relationship with each other from the beginning.

What about you, what do you want?
What if you are just not that into him?